Key to good parenting is love

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Feb 15, 2011
Key to good parenting is love
AUTHOR Amy Chua's article ("Why Chinese mothers are superior"; Jan 15) has stirred up much debate among Singaporeans on which of the two parenting styles is most effective.

On the one hand, the "Chinese parent" is strict, disciplines his children and makes sure they do not score any less than an A, in order to prepare them for the future. The "Western parent", on the other hand, values individuality in his children, giving them freedom to pursue their passions.
Having been brought up by parents who enforced strict rules, I agree that parents should exert control and discipline, especially when children are young.
Sometimes, children's desires may not be best for them. I remember wanting to be an ice-cream vendor when I was seven. Imagine what would have happened if my parents were to let me pursue this dream. Children are rarely able to think for themselves or their future and thus, parents who want the best for their children need to enforce rules so that they are socialised to become successful individuals in society.
Many parents are aiming to strike the balance between the two extremes. Yet, why are we so intent on finding this ideal parenting model? Every child is different, and what works with one may not work with another.
Ultimately, what is important is giving the child the love and respect he deserves. In making important decisions, parents should serve as an adviser and supporter while allowing freedom of choice. Love is the most important factor, I feel, because in everything, if we know our parents truly love us and would do anything for us, how can we accuse them of being harsh? If not for our parents, we wouldn't be who we are today.
Serene Leong (Ms)
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